Mariama McGhee
Sophomore
UPREP High School
Sometimes, females get along while the rest prefer to hold a grudge or shoot the evil eye at each other. What would happen if you and your best friend had an argument over a boy? Would you work it out with her? Or would you rather keep the argument going? If you choose the first choice then listen carefully. Conflict resolution is when you solve problems without using violence. Use your voice and not your fists. That is the one message that I try so hard to teach. Here is the plan.
In high school you are faced with the difficult challenge of being a young female teen. Your teachers expect you to get high marks while your friends expect you to ignore what you’ve been taught and go with the flow. If you get into an argument with a female classmate, then your friends would want you to fight her. You don’t want to because you promised yourself that you would stay out of trouble for the rest of the school year. You don’t want to fight her so instead you use your words.
When solving a conflict you need to approach this with great caution and care. What you say may make this a good situation or a bad situation. Think before you speak and then take the plunge. Use your body language to let the person know that you’re doing this without throwing the blows. They will take the hint and listen.
Your stance is also important. Make sure that you look at ease and relaxed. If you’re comfortable then they become comfortable. If your stance consists of folded arms, rolling of the eyes, and fidgeting then they’ll take the cue to keep on arguing. Put on a brave face and try not to look nervous.
When you speak, speak as if you know what you’re talking about. Don’t talk to them like they’re crazy, because that will make them think that you are insulting them. Talk in a professional tone and do not exaggerate. As you speak you will grow more confident in what you’re saying and your friend will stop scowling for once and take your words into deep consideration. This method has never come close to failing.
The last thing you must do is listen. Before you speak, you need to hear your friend’s side of the story. You may have done something to upset her or she had done something to upset you. Either way listen to what she has to say. Try this and I guarantee you this will all be over as quickly as it started.
In high school you are faced with the difficult challenge of being a young female teen. Your teachers expect you to get high marks while your friends expect you to ignore what you’ve been taught and go with the flow. If you get into an argument with a female classmate, then your friends would want you to fight her. You don’t want to because you promised yourself that you would stay out of trouble for the rest of the school year. You don’t want to fight her so instead you use your words.
When solving a conflict you need to approach this with great caution and care. What you say may make this a good situation or a bad situation. Think before you speak and then take the plunge. Use your body language to let the person know that you’re doing this without throwing the blows. They will take the hint and listen.
Your stance is also important. Make sure that you look at ease and relaxed. If you’re comfortable then they become comfortable. If your stance consists of folded arms, rolling of the eyes, and fidgeting then they’ll take the cue to keep on arguing. Put on a brave face and try not to look nervous.
When you speak, speak as if you know what you’re talking about. Don’t talk to them like they’re crazy, because that will make them think that you are insulting them. Talk in a professional tone and do not exaggerate. As you speak you will grow more confident in what you’re saying and your friend will stop scowling for once and take your words into deep consideration. This method has never come close to failing.
The last thing you must do is listen. Before you speak, you need to hear your friend’s side of the story. You may have done something to upset her or she had done something to upset you. Either way listen to what she has to say. Try this and I guarantee you this will all be over as quickly as it started.
1 comment:
I agree that there are better alternatives, instead of fighting. Most females don't think before they react. They feel that it is neccasary to retaliate with fists and not talking. It is better to talk out your problems, because most times it is just a miscommunication. By that I mean most likely it's what he or she said. In a arument that is a phrase that is said a lot. "Well she said you said this". When most times thats not the case. But females are more likely to jump the gun on what they heard from someone else, rather going and talking to that person. I feel that females need to be more mature and walk away rather than make the problem bigger.
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